Good Riddance (Time of Your Life) – Green Day
“Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go…make the best of this dance and don’t ask why. It’s not a question but a lesson learned in time. It’s something unpredictable, but in the end it’s right.”
I often have people tell me that I’m always so happy. It’s true, I am. And I think if I could bottle my happiness and give it to others, the main ingredient in my potion would be 100% pure trust of divine time. I have let go completely of any and all need to control the outcome and timing of things. I’ve learned to understand that when I come to a roadblock in anything it is a clear indicator that it’s not for me right now.
I don’t get frustrated when things don’t go as I planned because I know that my plans are just that. While some people might disagree and say that loss of control is completely unnerving, I can assure you that surrendering to divine time is joyful.
I think that my road to this “loss of control” was a bit easier than it might be for others. I have never really been a controlling person to begin with. However, I used to have a penchant for planning. Planning and control are first cousins, right? When my plans fell apart and my timing didn’t match divine timing, it was a huge blow to me. Why didn’t I get this at this time? Why didn’t this happen now? Why did this come up now? Why was I there at that moment? Why wasn’t I there at that moment? If I’d just had one more minute! And on and on and on.
That was until I started to take a really close look at the past. I noticed a pattern there. The things that resulted as a part of divine time were far better than anything I could have planned in my own time. In all instances, divine time saved me. It saved me from circumstances, people and even myself. Actually, it saved me mostly from myself. It saved me from my own assumptions of readiness.
I image that for someone who likes to be more in charge of their lives learning to surrender to divine time seems like something they could never do. I, however, believe everyone can. Here are three steps that I think anyone can make to get started. The improvements will be vast even with the slightest adjustment.
1. Start thinking of road blocks as things that are meant to protect you and not to contain you.
We see something trying to stop us from our objective and the first thing we want to do is attack this thing and break through it like f-ing Macho Man Randy Savage. We have made roadblocks an enemy and the poor things don’t deserve it. Roadblocks aren’t meant to frustrate or test us. Roadblocks are here to protect us from the huge margin of error that we have the potential of making as humans. Stop pushing through. You are being protected when things don’t go exactly as you planned them.
2. Understand that you will get an answer.
The most frustrating part about giving into divine time is the questions it leaves you with. You want to understand and know why you didn’t get the thing you wanted or why things went the way they went. The good news is that the answers always arrive. The bad news is that it could be a while before they do. This is because the answers always come to us when we are ready to accept and understand them in their full capacity and not a second sooner. For some things in our lives, that could take months, years, decades and even our entire lifetimes. Just know that the answers will arrive and that you will be ready to accept them when they do. Make this your mantra: This didn’t happen as I wanted it to. I don’t know why now, but I will know eventually.
3. Understand the difference between regular time and divine time.
MAJOR KEY ALERT! Regular time is measurable. The clock and the calendar are our first introduction to time and we measure everything by that. But divine time gives a big middle finger to clocks and calendars. It doesn’t have a deadline and it isn’t in any rush to meet you at the exact places you have marked on your calendar. Yeah, it knows you wanted to be married and have kids by 35 and guess what? It doesn’t give a crap. It doesn’t even understand what a calendar is or age for that matter. Divine time is looking for two things and two things only: a) your readiness and b) readiness of the people around you. So while you might be ready at 30 to meet the man of your dreams and have babies, divine time is looking at your husband happily sowing wild oats and getting drunk every night. Divine time notes down that he is not ready yet for the type of commitment you’re looking for. Bringing him to you now means disaster. Accept and understand that your idea of time is not the same as the divine time.
Divine time is expansive, slow, occasionally frustrating, but ultimately perfect. So when time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go…make the best of this dance and don’t ask why. It’s not a question but a lesson learned in time. It’s something unpredictable, but in the end it’s right.
As you surrender to divine time I hope you have the time of your life!